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If he or she knows most, if not all, of your strengths and weakness, and use them against you, you may face yourself always losing in any quarrel. It’s like they have a “You” controller on their hands, and they know which buttons to push to elicit what actions from you. The more “evil” ones purposely embarrass you in public or when you are in company of your friends, giving you no respect. Seriously, being a victim and staying as one will not solve anything. Things does not get better when you keep quiet. If this sound like you, its high time to voice out.

Analyze everything that is said. Are those true or false? Are the facts being exaggerated? Are some things being left unsaid? Know whether you really did make a mistake on your part. Once you find the answers to that, start taking action. If it is positive that they are right, think of a solution to that problem. If it is not your fault,it is time to stop the nonsense.

Understand that no one can insult your confidence and self-respect if you did not allow them to. It is absolutely something you can control. If you are always at the mercy of someone’s else rage, it certainly is no healthy relationship. You have to show you are displeased with him/her. Donald Trump said: “If someone screws with you, screw them back fifteen fold.” Well, you do not have to really screw them back, but just do not keep being on the defensive.

In a relationship where you are always subject to verbal abuse, you are being “owned”. In a healthy dating relationship, there must be love and respect for each other. In a relationship without those crucial elements, the relationship will not grow. You will be better off finding someone else worthy of your love. There are people who love you but are fond of engaging in such verbal abuse. In such a difficult case, tell them gently but firmly that they need to do some self-reflection or else a break-up will be inevitable.

Starting a new dating relationship can be both scary and exciting. Many men feel like they do not have what it takes to keep their new girlfriend happy. Author of, How to Be Irresistible to Women, James Bradley knows that with the right information, any man can be irresistible to any woman. Take a look at the following tips so you can find out what to do and what not to do in new dating relationships.

Do not ever talk about ex girlfriends. Bad things and good things should be avoided totally.

Pay attention to her likes and dislikes. Read her wants and needs. If you saw her admiring that purse in the store, surprise her with it!

Never talk behind your new girlfriend’s back or criticize her in any way. Especially do not share private things with your buddies.

Mean what you say because women like to be able to trust what a man says.

Be open minded and willing to try new things. If she wants you to try a new food, movie, or music, try it out. You don’t have to like it, but she will respect your willingness to try.

Do not write off certain things as beings “women’s work”. If she is cooking, help her out and she is sure to love it.

Never be possessive or jealous if another guy talks to her or if she looks at someone else. If you do this, she will get sick of restrictions and leave.

Being part of a new relationship is fun and exciting. During this time you will learn a lot about each other and spend a lot of time together. Make sure that you respect her for who she is and she will do the same.

Finding healthy dating relationships almost certainly requires you to overcome approach anxiety. Think about it, approach anxiety leaves you with fewer options because you’re not creating them by meeting new dates. This is the number one reason why people end up settling into undesirable and even unhealthy dating relationships. In fact, some men are so afraid of approach that they’re also afraid to commit to long term relationships because of the fear that they might be “missing something better” because they never learned to approach and explore their options.

The good news is that approach anxiety is not a natural fear, it’s a learned fear. Anything that can be learned can be unlearned; it’s simply a matter of knowing how….

What Causes Approach Anxiety?

I’ve heard all the silly explanations for why we have approach anxiety, but having a background in sales, I’ve learned that the reason people fear approaching people is because they fear rejection. Fear of rejection, just like approach anxiety, is a learned fear and believe it or not, most people TRAIN themselves to fear rejection by making it a goal to get someone to say yes. This applies in sales and it applies in dating, here’s why…

Imagine yourself running East, what are you running away from? That’s right, you’re running from West. There’s no way to run in both directions at once, and the faster you run in one direction the faster you run away from the other. Now, take that same logic and apply it to rejection and acceptance, the two are just as opposite as East and West.

The problem is that if you make it a goal to approach someone and to get them to give you their phone number or say yes to a date, you’re automatically making it your goal to avoid rejection. So you’re sending your brain and nervous system mixed messages and trying to get it to run East and West at the same time. Think about it, the first message you’re giving it is: “Our goal is to avoid rejection and get a yes.” and the other message is: “The goal is to not be afraid of rejection.”

This is where the anxiety sets in, your brain is being told to not fear rejection, yet it’s being encouraged to avoid it. Avoidance breeds fear, yet your trying to fight that fear at the same time. Naturally, this creates tension in your nervous system just like you can create tension in a string by pulling it in two different directions.

So how do you create harmony and train yourself to not fear rejection?

Going Toe to Toe With Rejection

If avoidance breeds fear, confrontation erases it. Think about it, how do you overcome any other kind of fear? Not by running away, that’s for sure. You meet it head on and you do it ON PURPOSE. The on purpose part is key, and if you make it a definite goal to face rejection and ridicule, your fear of rejection will make its departure. To go toe to toe with fear or rejection, start approaching at least one person (male or female) a day with a request that’s 100% certain to invite rejection and even ridicule.

I’ve found that businesses are a great place to do this. For example, ask your dry cleaner if they sell exercise bikes, or go into a McDonald’s and order a Whopper (that one’s fun). Walk into a bookstore and ask where their lingerie section is. Yes, it’s stupid and people will think you’re weird and you’ll FEEL weird about it. That’s the whole point, confronting the experience of social anxiety and inviting rejection.

The more you do this, the more familiar those awkward feelings will become and the less anxiety they’ll cause you. You don’t have to have a pleasant experience with something to become comfortable with it, you just have to have the experience enough times to build familiarity. Think about it, people become comfortable with awkward and even uncomfortable things all the time simply because they’re familiar. Think of the child who grows up around domestic violence and ends up in a similar situation when they get married.

Familiarity drives out fear, so get familiar with the feeling of rejection and pretty soon the fear of it will no longer hold you back.

Finding healthy dating relationships will require you to beat the fear of rejection. That is, unless you want to wait around for the rest of your life for the right person to fall into your lap and beg for your time and attention. As you know, when this happens the quality of the relationship usually isn’t that great. No, if you want healthy dating relationships you must go after what you want until you find it, which means you’re going to get a LOT of rejection.

So if you’re struggling with the fear of rejection right now, I’m guessing that your dating relationships are crummy because of it. However, you might be amazed at how you’re reinforcing this fear by trying to overcome it…

Why Fear of Rejection isn’t the Real Problem

If you’re feeling anxious about rejection, I’ll bet you $1 that the fear of rejection isn’t what’s actually causing the anxiety. The anxiety is caused by your mind feeling like it’s being pulled in two different directions by conflicting goals. Let me explain.

Goal #1: Get a yes (avoid rejection)

Goal #2: To overcome the fear of rejection (face rejection)

Now, look at these two goals. Can you see where they conflict with one another? Goal number one is focused on avoiding rejection while goal number two is focused on facing rejection. Have you ever had a job where you had two bosses and they were both giving you conflicting orders? Stressful isn’t it? Your mind can’t run in two directions at once and the more you try to force it to, the more anxiety you’ll create.

Not only that, the more you run away from something, the more afraid you’ll become of it. It’s only when face your fear that you start to build courage. So pursuing goal #1 actually creates more fear of rejection. What you need to do is acknowledge these as two separate goals and work on them one at a time, starting with the hardest one…

The Best Way to Beat the Fear of Rejection

The only way to beat any fear is to face it. Again, the more you try to avoid it, the more afraid you’ll become. So instead of starting with the goal of getting a yes, go for the no. Make it your goal to get rejected and to KEEP getting rejected until you become comfortable with it. You can do this by approaching someone with a request which is 100% certain to get you rejected. For example, walk into a tire store and ask if they sell snow cones. Walk up to someone you’ve never met and ask them where you can buy some canned steam. Ask them if your nose is on backwards or if they want to babysit your pet alligator.  

Don’t just approach people of the opposite sex that you’re interested in either. Do this with as many people as you can and make the requests as whacky and ridiculous as possible. The more ridiculous they are, the more uncomfortable you’ll feel and the easier it will become for you to face social discomfort and rejection. After a few weeks of this, you’ll be ready to work on the goal of getting yeses.

However, it’s a good idea to still take one day a week (or one outing) to only practice facing rejection, just to keep your courage up. If you have questions or want more information, send me an email or download our healthy relationships mini-course.

We are always told that relationships on the rebound are bound to fail, even more so when your older, well I’m sorry, but I just don’t agree with this, however many people keep saying it it’s just not true. To me life and relationships is and are different for everyone, every-time. People say that you shouldn’t rush into another relationship after just finishing one, why? At the end of the day every relationship is different, and senior dating senior Is simply about 2 grown ups who don’t require the approval of others!.

Just what is a rebound relationship anyway? Well the common held view is that it all seems to be based on time. For most people if you say that a friend is dating less than six months after the end of a long-term relationship there’s an audible sucking in of breath and a shaking of the head. This whole idea of about 6 months really seems to be a general view. But is it based on hard facts, or has it more to do with people morally judging others. The simple fact is that as usual it’s all to do with what people think, in other words an urban myth.

Everyone of us and every relationship is different, and good things always seem to happen when we least expect it. We really have no idea what is around the corner, but if we just sit still and are too afraid of what people think then we will never know whether just around that corner lies good or bad things, do we?

So your mature and you’ve just come out of a long-term relationship, do something novel, put your self first and ignore what people think. Next ask yourself an honest question, what have I really got to lose by getting into this senior dating lark, the answer nothing! Lets say you chat to friends, check out the web and then decided to join an online senior dating agency, one set up just for older people like us.

So you give it a go, join the site and before you know it there are lots of people your age to talk to. Before you know it your chatting away to different people, and before you know it you find yourself chatting to someone who just ticks all the right boxes for you, next step you know is to meet up. In your mind do you think this is all too soon, or do you think I have nothing to loose? The thing is that three things can happen if you do meet up, one you really don’t get on, well fine. Next you become friends, but no real spark, hey great, after all who in this world has too many friends? Or you really hit it off and have a great time.

The whole point is that what people think shouldn’t be the reason whether you get back out dating again, only you know if you are ready or not. Being senior and single after a long-term relationship is often a tough time, but it doesn’t have to be. If you join senior dating agencies open-minded and totally free from any preconceived ideas or goals, then you can achieve so much from being a member, at the very least friends, and if you’re really lucky you are going to find that special relationship.

The site is geared toward Heterosexuals particularly Christians who are looking to meet to build relationships and potentially marry. That said would I be legally required to include male seeking male and female seeking female sections or could I exclude these without being accused/charged with discrimination?