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[ad#adsense2]Living as a single may be a choice for some, but for most people, it is a stage before marriage that is supposed to prepare you for a life-long commitment. In this stage, you usually date to find your future spouse. Even single parents, separated and divorced men and women, widowed and uninvolved persons who are similarly referred to as singles at one time or another are looking for their perfect match and intend to marry or remarry.

Since many (if not most) singles still plan to enter marriage, they are predisposed to date or go out with people of the same interests, ideas, nationality, affiliations and most especially, religion. Thus, singles are often described by the group or category they belong to such as “Christian singles,” “American singles,” “single parents,” “Jewish singles,” and “LDS Singles.”

Unquestionably, sharing the same faith is very crucial to a successful relationship; moreover, to a successful marriage. Thus, most Christian singles prefer to settle down with fellow Christians.

In United States, Christian singles occupy more than eighty percent of the total number of American singles, based on a 2000 U.S. Census reports. The Christian singles category is further broken down into Catholics (24.5 %), Protestants (52.17 %), Mormons (1.80 %) and Other Christians (4.13%).

With a large portion of the entire American population occupied by single men and women, it is logical to infer that Christian singles occupies a large portion of the American population. This is substantiated by the multifarious sites that provide dating services for a large number of Christian singles.

Finding a Christian partner through these sites, however, has some drawbacks.

Sites that provide dating services for Christian singles, although managed by Christians, are business-like in nature. More often, they overlook the major aspect of dating for Christian singles, which is faith.

It is interesting to note that a majority of Christian singles are significantly interested with finding a “born again or saved” mate and a true Christian mate with a solid understanding of God’s words rather than a mere date. Finding such s partner entails more than just matching of qualifications, interests and other things most online dating services for Christian singles provide.

If you cannot find yet the right partner with whom you can share a Christ-centered marriage, do not worry. Life of a single Christian after all, should not be distinguished by an intense longing to find a mate but rather by happiness and contentment in living a Christian life.

[ad#adsense2]“How can I know when I’m really in love?” asked Ruby. “How can I know if what I feel for Jim is really love or just infatuation? How can I know if this feeling will last?”

Ruby and Jim had been dating for 11 months and were considering marriage. Ruby, 32, felt “head over heels” in love with Jim, but she had felt head over heels in love with Adam, as well as with Mark.

“That feeling didn’t last with Adam or Mark. How do I know it will last with Jim? How can you tell when it’s the real thing?”

“Ruby,” I told her, “the answer to this important question depends upon which part of you feels ‘in love’ and which part of Jim you are ‘in love’ with.”

I explained to Ruby that she can be in love from her ego, or as we call it in the Inner Bonding process we teach, her wounded self. Or, she can be in love from her true Self or core Self – her essence, her soul Self. If she is in love from her wounded self, it will be about external things and the love will not last. But if she is in love from her soul Self, it will be about internal things, and it is very likely that the love will see her through all the challenges that come up in relationships.

“Ruby,” I asked her, “What do you love about Jim?”

“I’ve been thinking about that a lot,” she answered. “It’s kind of funny some of the things I love about him. I love his walk and his smell. I love the way his eyes crinkle when he smiles, and I love his laugh. I love just being next to him. There is something about his energy  – I don’t quite know how to talk about it – that I love being around. I love his touch. I love his kindness and sensitivity and his deep caring for people. Even though he would not be considered a handsome man, I love how he looks. There’s something about his mouth and the look in his eyes that just fills me with love. And I love the passion he has about both his work and his hobbies I love his playfulness. We laugh a lot together.”

“How is this different than what you loved about Adam or Mark?”

“I think that with both Adam and Mark I was pretty much blown away by their looks – they were both hunks. Both of them were also very successful and very social. They took me to nice places and great vacations. Jim is not as financially successful nor as social, yet I feel much safer with him. I think that I also feel in love with Adam’s power in the world. He really seemed to have it together and his sense of power turned me on. But he wasn’t always nice to people, and he wasn’t always nice to me.”

“So it seems that with Adam and Mark, your wounded self was in love with their wounded selves – their more superficial qualities of looks, money and power. But it sounds like with Jim your essence is in love with his essence. The qualities you say you are in love with are qualities that won’t go away over time, because they are soul qualities. People can certainly lose their looks and their money, but it is unlikely that Jim will lose the qualities that you love in him, especially if you frequently express your appreciation for these qualities.”

“So I really am in love with Jim! This really is different than my other relationships. You know, I think I’ve finally grown up. The more superficial qualities just don’t seem to be so attractive to me anymore!”

[ad#adsense2]There are hundreds of online dating sites but many of them are just not right for christian singles like you and me. 

The good news is that there are several where you can meet quality christian singles – and with the help of God and our savious Jesus Christ – we can find our one true partner in life (and beyond).

The first thing to do, after deciding that you want to try this method, is to check out the different sites online and narrow your search down to just one or, maybe, two.

As I said in my profile (About Emma) I tried two different dating services.  ChristianMingle.com and ChristianCafe.com.

The first thing you will need to do is to create on online profile.  This profile is where you describe yourself, who you are, what you like/dislike and what you are looking for.

As in everything – honesty is the key.  Honesty with yourself and honesty with your prospective matches.

You should take your time a create a really great profile.  I had my best friend help me with parts.  Sometimes it can be a little difficult to describe yourself accurately – you don’t want to come accross as boastfull of full of pride – but at the same time you should let people know what your good qualities are.  Having someone else look your profile and make suggestions really helped me.  This is one of my tips I hope you follow.

Here is another tip for you – especially for men – the more photos you put on our profile the more responses you will get.  We are visual beings and like looking at photos!

Take you time to go through your prospective matches and pick the ones where their proile strike a cord inside you.

You can also use the chat rooms.  I must admit I liked using these once I built up the courage and eventually jumped in.  They were fun and I met some great people.

When you find someone with a profile you like (or one is presented to you), don’t be afraid to contact that person,  That is what you are there for – this, again, is especially true for you guys.  We like it when you start the “conversation”.  But, girls, I think it is ok for you so contact someone to say “Hi” – just like you would anyplace else – it is just polite.

No doubt you will find, contact and comminucate with several people.  I alsways started with making sure the person followed my beliefs as they are of utmost importance to me – but I know this is not true for everyone.  Take waht is most important to you and start with that.  In this way you can spend time with people who share the same values as yourself.

And, when it is time to finally meet (I was sooo exxited when I met Josh for the first time) – make sure you meet in a safe place.  Again, this is just the same as meeting in the “regular” world.  There is no harm in being a little cautious and safety is paramount.

As I said previously, there are many sites out there but I found both ChristianMingle.com and ChristianCafe.com both are excellent places to find quality christian singles online.

If you would like to read more about ChristianMingle.com you can read my post about it here.

If you would like to read more about ChristianCafe.com you can read my post about it here.

God Bless You.

Married Before God In Church