Find Christian Singles Online

[ad#adsense2]There are hundreds of online dating sites but many of them are just not right for christian singles like you and me. 

The good news is that there are several where you can meet quality christian singles – and with the help of God and our savious Jesus Christ – we can find our one true partner in life (and beyond).

The first thing to do, after deciding that you want to try this method, is to check out the different sites online and narrow your search down to just one or, maybe, two.

As I said in my profile (About Emma) I tried two different dating services.  ChristianMingle.com and ChristianCafe.com.

The first thing you will need to do is to create on online profile.  This profile is where you describe yourself, who you are, what you like/dislike and what you are looking for.

As in everything – honesty is the key.  Honesty with yourself and honesty with your prospective matches.

You should take your time a create a really great profile.  I had my best friend help me with parts.  Sometimes it can be a little difficult to describe yourself accurately – you don’t want to come accross as boastfull of full of pride – but at the same time you should let people know what your good qualities are.  Having someone else look your profile and make suggestions really helped me.  This is one of my tips I hope you follow.

Here is another tip for you – especially for men – the more photos you put on our profile the more responses you will get.  We are visual beings and like looking at photos!

Take you time to go through your prospective matches and pick the ones where their proile strike a cord inside you.

You can also use the chat rooms.  I must admit I liked using these once I built up the courage and eventually jumped in.  They were fun and I met some great people.

When you find someone with a profile you like (or one is presented to you), don’t be afraid to contact that person,  That is what you are there for – this, again, is especially true for you guys.  We like it when you start the “conversation”.  But, girls, I think it is ok for you so contact someone to say “Hi” – just like you would anyplace else – it is just polite.

No doubt you will find, contact and comminucate with several people.  I alsways started with making sure the person followed my beliefs as they are of utmost importance to me – but I know this is not true for everyone.  Take waht is most important to you and start with that.  In this way you can spend time with people who share the same values as yourself.

And, when it is time to finally meet (I was sooo exxited when I met Josh for the first time) – make sure you meet in a safe place.  Again, this is just the same as meeting in the “regular” world.  There is no harm in being a little cautious and safety is paramount.

As I said previously, there are many sites out there but I found both ChristianMingle.com and ChristianCafe.com both are excellent places to find quality christian singles online.

If you would like to read more about ChristianMingle.com you can read my post about it here.

If you would like to read more about ChristianCafe.com you can read my post about it here.

God Bless You.

Married Before God In Church

[ad#adsense2]If you are single and over the age of 21, you probably know that the dating scene has changed significantly in the last decade.

Bars, dance clubs, the grocery store, and the library have been replaced as places to meet members of the sex. Newer ways of meeting that special someone include speed dating, using matchmakers, and the social networking sites are today’s way of finding a potential mate.

The Internet has replaced many of the face to face methods of meeting your match. Online dating services present a non-threatening way of looking at who is out there without ever having to leave the comfort of your house.

Since so many households use a computer, and the cost of using an online dating service is relatively low, you may be able to find that date in time for your cousin’s wedding for less than the cost of a decent dinner at your favorite eatery.

There are, of course, many potential pitfalls associated with looking for Mr. or Mrs. Right (or Right Now for that matter) on the Internet. For one, it is easy to hide behind the anonymity of your computer screen and presnt yourself as something you are not. How many times have you heard someone described as being “height proportional to weight” when they are really rather portly and surprisingly short?

Rather than just embellishing the facts, there is also the threat of the out-and-out lie. There have been many lonely people bilked out of their life’s saving by a would-be suitor.

So what’s a poor dater to do?

One method of getting a date that has grown in popularity are dating services. Though some of the problems associated with online dating are ever present, Christian dating services offer somewhat of a solution when it comes to finding a like minded individual. The dater can rest assured that they are, presumably at least, going to find someone with the same religious inclinations and values as herself.

Though problems still exist, hopefully the dating service will pre-screen its members so the potential date does not turn out to be someone on the run from the law or a run of the mill atheist. This can be a fun way to go out for coffee, to see a matinee, or other types of good clean fun with a like-minded individual that might just turn out to be a keeper.

Keep in mind that even though you are using the Christian dating service, common sense rules should still apply. Meeting in a public place for the first few times is probably a safe bet. Other rules include taking your own vehicle and having a friend phone to check in sporadically. As someone wise once said, “Nothing ventured, nothing gained”.

Try this “new millenium” approach to dating and you just might gain a partner.

Christian Singles Falling In Love

[ad#adsense2]Yes, it should be absolutely OK. Even if you are a fundamentalist or extremely conservative Christian, there really shouldn’t be any problem at all with using an online dating service.

Why would there be?

After all, there is nothing intrinsically anti-Christian about using an online dating service. It would be one thing if you were using the dating service specifically to meet people to have sex with, something like that could arguably conflict with your faith. But if you’re just using a dating service in hopes of meeting somebody nice to someday settle down with, that’s a perfectly wholesome activity.

If your faith is the most important thing in your life, you should probably mention that upfront to anybody you meet through an online dating service. That way there will be no surprises, for either of you. And there are also online dating services available for Christian singles, so perhaps you should consider trying of them.

Of course, you should also bear in mind that whatever online dating service you use, you should still follow sensible safety precautions: don’t give away too much of your personal info before you really get to know this person, make sure that the first time you meet it’s in a crowded, public place, etc.

Don’t automatically assume that a person is any more or less safe to meet, just because you discovered them through a Christian dating service.  If you still feel conflicted about meeting somebody through an online dating service, you can always speak with your pastor about it, explain your misgivings and ask for advice.

Also, like me, you can talk to your friends and family – they may have some good advice and should support you.  The bottom line – God loves us when we take action so there is no need to be embaressed or worry about taking steps to meet our partner for life.

Christian Couple Reading The Bible

[ad#adsense2]I know how exciting it can be to meet someone you really like.

There’s such a special rush to that kind of original attraction. But you’re facing the dating scene’s old double whammy.  You like that person and would like to date them, but you know what God wants you to do – and they aren’t the same thing.  I think God clearly states His wishes about Christians dating non-Christians.

God knows it’s a risky business, and He tells us not to do it.

You are not the same as those who do not believe.  So do not join yourselves to them.  Good and bad do not belong together.  Light and darkness cannot share together.

If you know someone is not a Christian, you should not date them. You already understand that, but you’re concerned about this persons relationship with God.  And I commend you for being so concerned.  But you must be careful with the temptation to want to be involved with this person so you can lead him to Christ.

Missionary dating seldom works – and God doesn’t ask you to do it, either.

So, here’s what I suggest you do.  First, get with one or two of your close Christian friends and begin praying for this person.  Only God can change their heart – so ask Him to do that.

Secondly, talk to your pastor or some other Church members, and ask them to begin witnessing to this person.

Ask them to talk to this person about their relationship with the Lord.  And finally, continue to seek God’s will first.

Don’t force a relationship with this person.  God could be saving you from a lot of heartache and pain. Or someday, this person may become a Christian and the two of you may begin a wonderful relationship.  Only God knows.  But remember, too, that God wants to give you the desires of your heart. 

The thing you should want most is God’s kingdom and doing what God wants.   Then all these other things you need will be given to you (Matthew 6:33). 

Place your trust in God - be faithful to Him.  God has someone even more exciting for you – just keep looking

Gods Light Will Shine On You

[ad#adsense2]As a Christian single person, there are many questions to consider before making a choice as whom to date. Especially if this particular Christian single is going speed dating, which is definitely difficult to even the most refined singles.

There are many facets of this specific type of dating to consider. At first glance, the big picture of this activity is overwhelming. Where to begin?

First things first.

Let’s assume that not all participants are Christians. Ask yourself, is being a Christian the first and foremost requirement of a date? If the answer is yes, then we can continue on. The main question has been answered.

Next, ask the person what demonination he or she belongs. This might be crucial in deciding whether to continue or not. An Episcopalian might not be comfortable dating a Baptist, etc. Does this person believe in Predestination? This is very important to some denominations. Ask then if the person practices Christian principles in all of his or her affairs. A truly Christian person should live his or her life according to the teachings of Jesus.

Always be on watch for that wolf dressed in sheep’s clothing. In other words, be wary of the hypocrites, as there are many out there. Have the person quote his or her favorite Bible verse or scripture, in relation to loving your brother as you love yourself.

The next question is quite the determinor. Do you think that Jesus Christ is your personal Lord and Savior? If yes, then by all means continue.

That leads us to asking the person how often he or she attends church services. This might mean more to some than others. If this person is the devout Christian that he or she claims to be, then attending church regularly is probably a make or break question. Then ask his or her opinion on tithing. This is another important issue to be discussed and also to be on the same page about.

Once these first few “staple” questions are answered, then you must move on to the tough issues that Christians face in this day and time.

- What are his or her beliefs surrounding premarital sex?
- How does this person feel about sex positions other than the missionary position?
- What is his or her stance on gay and lesbian clergy?
- Is alcohol consumption tolerated a little, or not at all?

The above questions give the speed dater insight into the basic tenets of Christianity, as well as pose some more “touchy” subjects.

When it is all said and done, I think the most important question of all is, “do you treat others as you would like to be treated?

Living the Christian way is very different than pretending to live like a Christian. I’m sure if you find a match out there, you will be better able to see the person for who he or she really is, when you go on that first date.

Speed Dating - Kind Of Scary At First

[ad#adsense2]That first email (or chat sessions) with a prospective match is very important. As the saying goes “you only get one chance to make a first impression!” So, let’s make that first impression a good one – and get some answers to questions we really want to know.

And remember, some of the questions are designed not just to find out about that specific thing, but to get the other person to open up.

Here are some questions you may want to ask:-

• Describe in one sentance your religious beliefs
• How often do you go to church
• How would you describe your relationship with God
• How would you describe your relationship with your family
• If our moms were setting us up on a blind date, what three things would your mom tell mine about you?
• What’s your favorite beach in the world?
• What’s the next country you want to visit?
• What is one thing are you craving today?
• What music is in your car or home stereo right now?
• What are three of your guilty pleasures?
• What was the last book you read? Did you enjoy it?
• What is must-see TV for you?
• If you met the right person, how many children would you have?
• If you could live in any time period in history, when would it be?
• If you could live in any time period in history, when would it be?
• What was one of your most memorable jobs?
• Do you endure, like, or absolutely LOVE your job?
• If asked, would you dance in the middle of a grocery aisle?
• What are your passions? What moves you?
• Do you cry when watching sad/happy endings in movies?
• If you won $1 million in a lottery, how would you spend it?
• What is the craziest thing you’ve done lately?
• If you could invite any five people to your birthday party, who would they be?
• If time and money were not an obstacle, to what causes would you dedicate your time?
• What are three things that you dislike the most in a person?
• If you could be an animated superhero, which one would you be and why?
• What was one of your most embarrassing moments?
• What was your proudest moment?
• What are the three most important qualities you are looking for in that significant other and why?
• Money no object, describe your dream vacation
• What is your fondest memory from childhood?
• Who is your hero?
• What is the one thing that you couldn’t live without?
• What do you like best about being single?
• If you could pick just one it would be: attractive, intelligent or rich?
• What makes your heart pound? What makes your skin crawl?
• When they make the movie about your life, what actor should portray you?

I hope these help you search for a quality christian single.

Blessings.

Emma.

Questons To Ask Christian Singles